Be available
#14Dedicate time to being fully present available to your children emotionally and interactively.
Attachment theory (Bowlby, Ainsworth) established that a child’s sense of security comes from having a reliable, emotionally responsive caregiver — what researchers call a “secure base.” This doesn’t mean hovering. It means being consistently available so your child knows that when they need you, you’re there. The research is clear: children with secure attachment develop better emotional regulation, stronger relationships, and more confidence to explore independently.
Supporting Values
This principle helps cultivate these core values in your family:
Practical Examples
- • Put away devices and give full attention during conversations
- • Create regular one-on-one time with each child
- • Be emotionally present and responsive to their needs
Related Activities
These family activities help put this principle into practice: